It’s difficult having to watch the people around you go through difficult times in their lives and not be able to help or reach them. Senior tantrums can happen to the best of our loved ones and often we are left wondering what do we do next? How do we move on from this? How do we watch this person that once used to be so understanding suddenly lash out? Here we provide some tips on how to deal with and continue to strengthen your bond with your loved one who is prone to tantrums.
Speak to a Medical Professional
Tantrums are common in children and teenagers, however, it’s not normal for adults to act out that way as they would have a more advanced emotional capacity and understanding of their surroundings. Older adults who do act out may have an underly condition that is causing them to do so. If you are concerned, speak to a medical professional to see if there are other cognitive or health issues causing your loved one to act this way. Medication is also a cause of violent mood swings. Physical health may not be the only cause and mental health could also be greatly affecting them. As we get older many things start to weigh on our minds, from a change in relationships with the people around us to worsening health conditions, all these things can lead to a weakened mind. And sometimes we may not have enough strength to realize it in ourselves and speak out about it. If you can see changes in your loved one’s mood that you suspect are due to a decline in their mental health, talk to them and try and bring them to see a professional.
It may seem like an impossible thing to consider taking a break from a family member or loved one. But if you don’t excuse yourself every once in a while, you will start to feel your relationship weaken. Taking a break from them is a form of preservation of your cherished relationship. Giving the both of you some time to breathe and reflect could do not only you but them good as well. Setting some time off for yourself will also teach your loved one that not only can’t they treat you like this and take advantage of your kindness but that you also have personal boundaries that should be respected. Guilt is something that we can feel when taking a break but always remember that taking a break helps them in the long run as well.
Do Not Engage
Most importantly is to not engage in the argument. Most of what they say to you is coming from a place of misplaced emotions and frustration with themselves. Further antagonizing them would do no good for any of you. It would only get them more riled up and then you would have only a bigger mess to clean up after. If an argument is bubbling between the both of you, step away, clear your mind and wait for them to cool off before talking again.
At Regency Pointe we are dedicated to helping you or your loved one become the best version of yourself. From an in-depth physical and mental health program to several different living options, we hope to aid you every step of the way. If you would like to know more about what we can do for you, feel free to contact us.